As I lay by the pool, the echoes of Jamie Woon played through my headphones while I read,
“Camus once said that “Real generosity towards the future consists in giving all to what is present’ well that’s exactly what I did. I knew I had to change so I decided to listen to my heart and do it in a very dramatic way. My life became so much simpler when I left the baggage of my past behind. The moment I stopped chasing the big pleasures of life, I began to enjoy the little ones, like watching the stars dancing in the moonlit sky or soaking in the sunbeams of a glorious summer morning. And India is such an intellectually stimulating place that I rarely thought of all that I had left. (…) Every event has a purpose and every setback its lesson. I have realised that failure, whether of the personal, professional or even spiritual kind, is essential to personal expansion. It brings inner growth and a whole host of psychic rewards. Never regret your past, rather embrace it for the teacher that it is” (The Monk Who Sold His Ferrari)
I put the book down and watched the breeze form ripples in the water as I reflected on my personal journey. These words reinforced lessons I had learnt during my time in India. Life isn’t perfect for anyone, we all have our ups and downs but I believe the way we deal with our lows enhances our capacity to really enjoy those highs and make them last. Remember, “there are no stars without darkness”. Crappy times make you appreciate the good times 🙂 The more you experience the more you grow.
I also believe in taking time out to appreciate the micro-pleasures in life, in fact I blogged about it around 2 years ago (You can read it by clicking here). I think this is a wonderful tool for getting yourself back to a high frequency. I think of human emotion as frequencies, when you are happy you vibrate on a high frequency and when you are sad you don’t vibrate at all or worse…you give out negative vibrations. I used to consciously try to take time out for micro pleasures but now it is second nature to me. If I’m out and I see a beautiful sunset or scene I will stop to enjoy it and take pictures, If I’m having a bubble bath I will light a candle to make it feel like even more of a treat, if someone does something small that enhanced my day I will take a moment to write them a little note, thank them or smile or whatever (it’s the little things). Gratitude is so important to getting you back on a high frequency because you’re focussing on everything you have. Most people on a low-frequency choose to focus on what they don’t have…as a result they get even less.
Never think that because of a series of unfortunate events, your life is doomed. The more you say “Whats next” the more life will keep throwing you curveballs. And DON’T keep talking about it to people. Do you have that one friend who has been in the same crappy situation forever (or maybe you are that friend)? No matter what you tell them they just can’t get out of this whirlwind of a life that they are literally drowning in. That friend is probably your moaniest of friends, they tell everyone the same sad story and you know what…THEY are making it the focus of their life and so is every person they tell so guess what, its gonna get worse. Have a person you tell if you need to but realise the more people you tell the more negative vibrations you are putting out there. Realise you can’t change the past, your present situation is what you have so pick yourself up and say “things can only get better”. Focus on micro-pleasures, they will get you back to some kind of positive frequency and talk about those instead of bad things you’ve experienced. Slowly you will begin to attract better things into your life if you focus on whats good!
I know this may not be plausible for everyone but…I would also highly recommend a trip to India lol the Yoga and Meditation retreat literally changed my life. If not India take some time out to go somewhere alone where you can walk amongst nature and build a picture of your happy future that you can start working on when you get back.
Don’t think about the past, its done! Forgive, forget and focus on your amazing future 🙂
Love Zohra x